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Couples have been getting married in churches throughout the world since the 4th century when Emperor Constantine legalized Christianity.
The Wedding Service
When you get married at church, it is not actually the priest who marries you! Put simply, the priest witnesses your vows (promises) to each other, offers you God's blessing and proclaims that you are now married. 1 - Your wedding begins at the door…
The service begins with the processional, led by Fr Duncan, followed by the bridesmaids or attendants and then the bride as she enters to join the groom and his best man, who will already be standing at the front of the church. The bride and her attendants enter through the main doors and process down the central aisle. The groom is already in his place.
Music is normally played as the bride enters the church. Some examples can be heard here.
2-The Preface
The preface is a short but formal welcome. It explains the Christian Understanding of marriage and the priest reads it to the congregation. You can read the text here.
3 - A Hymn of Your Choice
You will need to choose some hymns (if you are having music.) All the music at ASWT is performed “live” on the day by professional musicians. Music choices are a really important decision and it is best to ask for help if you are unsure what to choose at any point! You can listen to some examples of hymns people have used in weddings here.
4 -Readings
The readings now follow, with the congregation seated. The bride and groom and their attendants are also seated at this point. In a Nuptial Mass, there is always one reading from the Gospels, and the priest will read this after any other readings you choose. There is room for your friends to read something. You can have up to two readings. Follow this link to see examples.
5 - The Homily
Normally, at this point, Fr Duncan gives a short address of up to five minutes, drawing out themes to do with you, your marriage, and the readings you have chosen.
6 - A Hymn of Your Choice - Optional
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The question of consent is asked by Fr Duncan, addressing the groom and then the bride in turn. The response is ‘I will’. The congregation is then asked to give its support by saying together, ‘we will’.
N, will you give yourself to N to be her husband,
to live with her according to God’s word?
Will you love her, comfort her,
honour and protect her,
and, forsaking all others, be faithful to her
so long as you both shall live?I will.
N, will you give yourself to N, to be his wife,
to live with him according to God’s word?
Will you love him, comfort him,
honour and protect him,
and, forsaking all others, be faithful to him
so long as you both shall live?I will.
Families and friends,
you are witnesses to these vows.
Will you do everything in your power
to uphold N and N in their marriage?We will.
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The vows are exchanged by the couple with joined hands, facing one another.
I, N, in the presence of God,
take you, N, to be my wife:
to have and to hold
from this day forward,
for better, for worse,
for richer, for poorer,
in sickness and in health,
to love and to cherish,
so long as we both shall live.
All this I vow and promise.I, N, in the presence of God,
take you, N, to be my husband;
to have and to hold
from this day forward,
for better, for worse,
for richer, for poorer,
in sickness and in health,
to love and to cherish,
so long as we both shall live.
All this I vow and promise. -
Both may exchange rings, or the groom may give the bride a ring only. The Celebrant says a short prayer of blessing over the ring or rings.
God of steadfast love,
by your blessing,
let these rings (or this ring) be for N and N
a symbol of their love and faithfulness
through Jesus Christ our Lord. Amen.As the ring is placed on the finger of the receiver, the giver says:
I give you this ring
as a symbol of our marriage.
May God enable us
to grow in love together.The receiver accepts the ring by saying:
I receive this ring
as a symbol of our marriage. -
The Celebrant pronounces the declaration, with the bride and groom facing each other, hands joined.
Before God and in the presence of us all,
N and N have joined hands
and made their solemn vows,
promising life-long faithfulness to each other.
In the name of God,
I declare them to be husband and wife.
What God has joined together,
let no one separate.
God the Father lovingly enfold you,
God the Son grace your home and table,
God the Holy Spirit crown you with joy and peace.
The Lord bless you and keep you in eternal life. Amen. -
There are three documents to be signed:
• The certificate that will register the marriage, which is lodged with the Registry of Births, Deaths and Marriages Queensland
• The certificate given to the bride and groom
• The register, which remains with Fr DuncanTwo witnesses are chosen by the couple to witness each of these documents. Traditionally, these are the best man and the head bridesmaid or matron of honour.
During the signing, music is played. Some couples also arrange for a soloist, musicians, or choir to perform appropriate pieces. You can find examples of popular music choices here.
8 - The Prayers.
Now that you are married, we pray to God giving thanks to him for you and the commitment you have made to each other. We pray that your life together will be joyful and fulfilling, and that your families and friends will support you as you journey through life. Father Duncan normally leads the prayers, but if you prefer, a friend can lead them. Fr Duncan can help you write your own prayers if you wish, or he will use some of the texts that are traditionally prayed at this point. We always conclude with the Lord’s Prayer.
9 - The Blessing and Dismissal
As the service draws to a close, Fr Duncan will pray for God’s blessing on you both and on the people who are gathered together before sending you out to your new life.
10 - The Recessional
The bride and groom then lead their attendants out of the venue, with the congregation following. They may greet immediate family, and others as appropriate, as they leave the church. Triumphant music is played as they leave. Some examples can be heard here.
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